Every parent wants the very best for their children. Your children’s future happiness depends on more than just achieving material wealth or reaching notoriety. One of the best things that you can do for your child is to provide a loving home which encourages confidence and makes them feel empowered.
Here are some of the most effective tips for encouraging self-assured confident and ambitious children.
Let Go
It’s natural as a parent to want to protect your little one from physical pain like falling or being hit by an oncoming vehicle. However, trying to hold them back from feeling emotional pain or making mistakes is only doing them a disservice by robbing them of a valuable lesson.
Intervening by trying to ensure they’re included with friends, or convincing their sports coach to give them more play time isn’t doing their confidence any favors. In fact, you’re encouraging them to think that life is going to hand them everything on a silver platter.
Children need to realize that it’s alright to make mistakes, and it’s entirely normal to feel irritated, defeated, or embarrassed. In order to create a resilient child, they must learn how to overcome challenges by creatively overcoming obstacles. Not by their parents taking care of their problems for them.
It’s especially essential for kids to have the opportunity to take on activities without feeling that their mom and dad will scrutinize them for doing something wrong. Teaching them that it’s not only ok to make mistakes but that it’s how you learn will teach them to be fearless.
Encourage Their Input
Rather than speaking over your children or assuming that they can’t sense that you aren’t listening to them, ask them what they think once in a while.
Try to encourage them to be a part of the family’s decision-making processes. Making them feel like they’re a part of making a choice encourages them to feel self-empowered and trust their own intuition.
Obviously, kids love to run the show, yet, having excessive control can be overwhelming for them. It’s best to give your kid a few choices to choose from. Think multiple choice rather than a point-blank question.
For instance, don’t ask your 3-year-old what he wants for lunch, because they’ll likely tell you they want cookies. Instead, ask if they’d like a sandwich or pasta.
Lead By Example
Nurture Their Ambitions
Try to expose your child to a wide variety of different things which can interest them. Be sure to encourage them when they come across something that they really adore. Kids who have a passion for something feel proud of themselves are more likely to be successful later in life.
